Moms, like myself, struggle daily to find enough time in the day. It seems as if the simplest tasks slip through my fingertips like butter. The day slides by with such ease, that I think to myself, “How did I work all day, yet seem to get nothing accomplished?” I envy moms that always have a clean house, cook hot meals nightly for the family, and somehow still find time for themselves. What are they doing? Moreover, what am I doing wrong? The answer: nothing. I simply need to prioritize and figure out what means most to me in life. Is it a clean house that makes me happy? Is it spending time with my children? Is it ME time? Or, perhaps, it is a combination of all three. I’m still working on figuring this out, and truthfully, may never find the perfect balance in this thing we call mom life, but let me introduce you to someone who has.
Today, I am proud to feature a mom that has embraced this struggle and prioritized her life with such grace. She is here to share her time management strategy with you, and I promise, you won’t be disappointed! With no further ado, I introduce to you, Jacqueline Brown–wife, mom, child psychologist, and author.
My friend, who you know as Cordially Court, was kind enough to invite me to introduce myself to all of you. I am so excited and honored! Court and I have several things in common. We both have two kids (mine are 6 and 4). We both love time with our families, and we are both women of faith. We also both struggle to find the time to do the things we love to do. I recently shared a secret with Court about my time warping ability that allowed me to be a full-time wife and mother, a part-time child psychologist, and write a novel when my kids were 3 and 5. Want to know what it is?
It is going to change your life! Ready? Okay, here it is. We all have 24 hours in a day.
Alright so there is hearing the secret and then there is fully embracing it. Once you fully embrace the truth of this secret (it only took me 20 years) then your life starts to change. Now that I have embraced it, I have stopped trying to do more than is possible. I have stopped feeling guilty (mostly anyway), and I have started doing the things that matter most to me. The “me” part of that sentence is important, because I’m not doing what others think is most important for me to do. Freeing!
Realizing that I have 1,440 minutes every day and at least 480 of those are spent sleeping (sleep is non-negotiable for the well-being of all those around me) means that every waking minute is precious and should not be wasted! Early in my writing days, before kids, I would have sworn up and down that I needed hours to devote to my craft or what was the point. Ha! If I have five minutes in the carpool line, I am writing (to be clear I do stop typing once the cars have started moving). I do not waste precious preschool time going grocery shopping, that can be done with kids in tow. What cannot be done with little ones who only want to push M on the keyboard over and over again, because their name begins with that same letter, is write. So when the kids are gone and I am not at work, I am writing. Any organization, straightening, cleaning, or cooking that may or may not occur will be done with them there. Does that make that task take twice as long? Of course, but it also helps keep little ones busy, which decreases the fighting and screaming!
As to the guilt, the psychologist in me wants you to know your kids won’t love you less if you feed them frozen chickenless nuggets for dinner once or twice a week (mine probably love me more) and they are okay with you volunteering in their class a few times a month instead of being homeroom mom. For those crafty, on top of it, homeroom moms like my friend Court – embrace it! Those of us who are not the crafty homeroom types are so thankful for the beauty you create in the world and the time you spend in the classroom! At the end of the day the more fulfilled you are the happier your kids (and husband) will be. Though I am stealing a few minutes here and there from those I love most, I am such a happier mom and wife that I know they are thankful for the time I devote to my other love – writing. Find your passion and give yourself permission to pursue it, even if it is just 5 minutes in the carpool line.
For Court and her friends (that’s you) I have made my debut novel, The Light, free on Kindle until tomorrow (8/16) at midnight. If you have Amazon Prime, it is always free. Philanthropy is a core belief of mine and all revenue from The Light is given to charity. For the next 30 days (August 16th – September 15th), in honor of someone dear to Court, all money will be donated to the Lupus Foundation of America. That is about $2 per book going towards helping solve the mystery of Lupus. Court and I are honored to help in whatever small way we can.
You can find out more about me at Jacqueline-brown.com. Read the book and help our cause instantly by clicking here.
A huge thanks to Jacqueline Brown for being a guest on my blog today! I am so proud of all that you have accomplished and am honored to partner with you to help support the Lupus Foundation of America.